Why "Assholes" Are the Ones With Girlfriends, and You're Stuck in the Friend Zone

Why "assholes" are the ones with girlfriends, and you're stuck in the friend zone

     Today I wanted to give you the main reason why the guys you perceive to be "assholes" are the ones with girlfriends, and you are stuck in the friend zone. This post is directly related to my post titled "What Will Actually Get You a Girlfriend." Hopefully this will give you a better understanding of everything.
     Has this ever happened to you? You are good friends with a beautiful girl, but you are to afraid to make a move on her, and you sit back and watch her date douche bag after douche bag and get her heart broken every time. You know you could do better for her but you're just to afraid to tell her how you feel. Everyone has been there, so you're not alone. What you need, is to understand the concept of clarification. For a detailed definition and example of what clarification is, please read my recent blog post on the concept, here.

http://gettinglaidsimplified.blogspot.com/2013/08/what-will-actually-get-you-girlfriend.html

     The reason why these "assholes" end up getting the girl, is because they are good at two things. They are good at clarifying, and they are good at expressing their thoughts and emotions. Probably two of the most important things when it comes to getting a girlfriend. They are not afraid to flirt with a girl, which clarifies that they are interested in her. They are not afraid to show interest and tell them they like them. Basically, they do all the work, and they make it a simple, easy choice for the girl to decide whether or not she likes them back. Everything they do is geared towards simplicity. While your sitting there, a good guy who really likes this girl, a girl who might actually like you back, but will never know because of the simple fact that you don't clarify things. Without clarity you have nothing.
     Think about it this way... If you took two guys, both exactly the same, with the same group of friends, and had one of them tell EVERY girl he knew that he thought they were cute and wanted to hangout with them more, while the other played therapist the other girls and had them tell him their problems, who do you think would get better results. Obviously the first one. I know it seems simple, but it truly is somewhat of a numbers game. The reason why the first one would get better results is because he made things CLEAR. The second one does what the majority of the guys in the friend zone do, listen to the girl tell him all their problems, with the hope that getting to know her better will help him get in her pants. That's not how it works, acting like a girls best friend will do exactly that, keep you her best friend. It doesn't clarify anything.
     Hopefully you have a better understanding of the concept of clarification, because it is by far one the most important concepts in all of game. You NEED to get better at making things clear. Like I said earlier, without clarity you have nothing. Keep it simple, and thanks for reading.