How Your Beliefs are Stopping You From Getting a Girlfriend

How your beliefs are stopping you from getting a girlfriend

     Have you ever found yourself thinking that only douche bags and assholes get girlfriends? We have all been guilty of thinking that at some point in our life, and the majority of guys still believe that to this day. Regardless of whether or not douche bags do get with girls or not, that's not the point. The point is that when you tell yourself something like that you are forever fucking yourself over. When you begin to believe that only douche bags get girlfriends then you will start to notice that it seems as if you were right the whole time, and that douche bags really are the only people who get girlfriends. When you tell yourself something like this, it is bad for two reasons...
          1.) By calling all other guys who get with girls douche bags you are putting up a defense mechanism. You are just like every other guy in this sense, don't kid yourself. You all have the same goals when it comes to girls. You are just like every other guy in the sense that you are all guys who are trying to get laid. By believing that only douche bags get with girls, and by simultaneously believing that you, yourself are not a douche bag, you have confirmed in your mind that you CANNOT get girls. Do you see where I'm going with this?
          2.) This is known as a negative belief, instead you should forget about whether or not these guys are douche bags, that doesn't matter to you, you should ignore it. I know, your upset that you got friend zoned for being a pussy, and then another guy, who was confident enough to go after what he wanted "stole" your girl and now you label him as a douche bag. No, that's a real man, and you sir, are a douche bag. Of course some times these guys may be douche's, but a lot of the time their not.
     My point here is that what you believe will filter what you notice and don't notice in life. If you believe that you have to be super good looking to get girls, then you will only notice super good looking guys with girlfriends. If you believe looks don't matter, which I personally believe, you will notice all types of guys getting with girls.
     To put it simple, your beliefs filter your reality. So I hope you can see why it is important to have a solid belief structure that will help you achieve your goals. A list of beliefs that you ACTUALLY think are true that will help you get what you want in life. If you have a lot of positive beliefs that are geared towards achieving your goals you will create new opportunities for yourself in any situation. That is the most powerful part of this concept, the idea that your beliefs create opportunities for yourself, opportunities that others may not see or notice because of their personal beliefs.

     Let me give you an example of a few beliefs that I carry..

          Looks don't matter
          Girls just as sexual as guys, if not MORE
          Women want to be hit on
          Taking risks leads to success
          No means not yet

     The list goes on, but these were just a few I thought off the top of my head. Beliefs don't necessarily have to be true to be helpful, if you believe you can get any and every girl in the world (which realistically you can't) then that will actually benefit you even though it may not be true. If you believe that girls are very sexual, then you will notice more opportunities in life to make an interaction go sexual. If you believe all girls are innocent and don't like sex, then sadly that is all you will notice and your sex life will suck.
     Beliefs are definitely one of the most powerful concepts and I have noticed huge improvements ever since I started focusing on this concept. Your drill is to create a list of beliefs that will help you achieve your goals, and get rid of any beliefs that won't help you. Keep it simple and thanks for reading.