Important concepts on how to pick up women
Here are a few important concepts to learn and practice when learning how to pick up women
Clarification -
To make an idea, thought, or concept clear; an interpretation that removes obstacles to understanding
Expressiveness-
Effectively conveying thought or feeling
Honesty-
Free of deceit and untruthfulness; sincere
Simplicity-
The quality or condition of being easy to understand or do
Agreement-
Harmony in opinion or feeling
In future posts I will clarify more on why these are important, because I know for some people it will be hard to understand why exactly this list of words will help you a lot when it comes to picking up women. For now, just think about these concepts and why they might help you, and practice them in every day life. Practice being more honest with yourself and other people, practice clarifying any confusing situations you are faced with, practice simplifying everything about your life, and practice being more expressive with your thoughts and feelings.
Monday, August 12, 2013
Sunday, August 11, 2013
Keeping It Simple: Why Flirting is The Easiest Way to Pick Up Women
Keeping it simple: Why flirting is the easiest way to pick up women
Have you ever wondered why some guys get with girls, while you're stuck in the friend zone? Have you ever found yourself confused at what gets girls to like you, and wondering how you can do it? The answer is simple, and anything you read that tells you otherwise is wrong.
The honest reason why some guys get with lots of girls, and other guys get stuck in the friend zone comes down to one thing, flirting. This is the simplest way I can put it. A lot of seduction methods teach you routines, that involve cold reads, framing, role playing, etc... but the simplest way to put it is that flirting is what separates the guys who get girls from the guys who don't. Flirting makes it clear that you are into the girl, and gives the girl the option of flirting back or not.
Here are some of my past blog posts that you should definitely read about flirting and clarifying;
http://gettinglaidsimplified.blogspot.com/2013/08/why-assholes-are-ones-with-girlfriends.html
http://gettinglaidsimplified.blogspot.com/2013/08/the-biggest-in-flirting-with-women.html
http://gettinglaidsimplified.blogspot.com/2013/08/what-will-actually-get-you-girlfriend.html
http://gettinglaidsimplified.blogspot.com/2013/07/the-basics-of-flirting.html
Read those, and hopefully you get a better idea of what flirting does and why should do it.
If you think of getting with girls as a numbers game, then the guys who consistently go out and show SEXUAL INTEREST in women are going to be the ones who get laid the most. The guys who go out and end up have boring conversations with girls are going to be the ones who consistently get put in the friend zone. Of course neither will be 100% all of the time, but statistically the guys who simply just go out and flirt with girls get laid much more.
Flirting is a basic skill that you just HAVE to learn, you have to. Its what gets you results. Its what clarifies the interaction early on as sexual, and simplifies everything for both people. That is very important. The fact that flirting makes the decisions for BOTH people simple, meaning that hooking up will be easier.
Now you might be wondering.. "How do I flirt with girls?" Well this comes down to simply showing interest in them. Of course there is a happy medium, and you will develop a sense for that over time. Things like teasing them and making fun of them, and then complimenting them, physically teasing them, pushing them, being playful, etc. There are literally tons of examples for flirting, but the underlying theme here is just that you are showing interest in them. The important thing is to have the idea of flirting present in your mind at all times.
Have you ever wondered why some guys get with girls, while you're stuck in the friend zone? Have you ever found yourself confused at what gets girls to like you, and wondering how you can do it? The answer is simple, and anything you read that tells you otherwise is wrong.
The honest reason why some guys get with lots of girls, and other guys get stuck in the friend zone comes down to one thing, flirting. This is the simplest way I can put it. A lot of seduction methods teach you routines, that involve cold reads, framing, role playing, etc... but the simplest way to put it is that flirting is what separates the guys who get girls from the guys who don't. Flirting makes it clear that you are into the girl, and gives the girl the option of flirting back or not.
Here are some of my past blog posts that you should definitely read about flirting and clarifying;
http://gettinglaidsimplified.blogspot.com/2013/08/why-assholes-are-ones-with-girlfriends.html
http://gettinglaidsimplified.blogspot.com/2013/08/the-biggest-in-flirting-with-women.html
http://gettinglaidsimplified.blogspot.com/2013/08/what-will-actually-get-you-girlfriend.html
http://gettinglaidsimplified.blogspot.com/2013/07/the-basics-of-flirting.html
Read those, and hopefully you get a better idea of what flirting does and why should do it.
If you think of getting with girls as a numbers game, then the guys who consistently go out and show SEXUAL INTEREST in women are going to be the ones who get laid the most. The guys who go out and end up have boring conversations with girls are going to be the ones who consistently get put in the friend zone. Of course neither will be 100% all of the time, but statistically the guys who simply just go out and flirt with girls get laid much more.
Flirting is a basic skill that you just HAVE to learn, you have to. Its what gets you results. Its what clarifies the interaction early on as sexual, and simplifies everything for both people. That is very important. The fact that flirting makes the decisions for BOTH people simple, meaning that hooking up will be easier.
Now you might be wondering.. "How do I flirt with girls?" Well this comes down to simply showing interest in them. Of course there is a happy medium, and you will develop a sense for that over time. Things like teasing them and making fun of them, and then complimenting them, physically teasing them, pushing them, being playful, etc. There are literally tons of examples for flirting, but the underlying theme here is just that you are showing interest in them. The important thing is to have the idea of flirting present in your mind at all times.
Saturday, August 10, 2013
The Biggest Test For Attraction in Women
The biggest test for attraction in women
A lot of people talk about the idea of "tests" and how you can tell when a girl is attracted to you. There are dozens of different "tests" and routines people run to see if a girl is attracted to them. There are whole e-books written on tests and the different types of tests there are. To me, this is pointless. It over complicates everything, and you know I like to keep things simple. My main test for attraction is based around a large concept that takes time to learn, but it is the true best test. The idea of "reciprocation." What I mean when I say reciprocation is does she laugh at your jokes, is she interested in what you have to say, does she tease you when you tease her, and does she flirt back when you flirt with her. Does she reciprocate the interest you are showing in her.
On the other hand, the biggest test for her NOT being attracted to you is the idea of apathy. Is she just straight up not interested in what you have to say, when you tease her does she just sit there straight faced and not do anything back, and so on. I know these things might seem obvious, but there is a big misunderstanding with the idea of attraction and attraction tests.
A lot of people think that there are specific things you can say or do that will flip a magical switch in her head that will instantly get her attracted to you. Nope. Not how it works. The concepts of reciprocation and apathy have simplified everything about attraction for me and helped me get much better results in a shorter period of time. They are two things that you need to go out and look for, have both those ideas present in your mind at all times, and you will start to notice them more. Eventually you will develop an intuition for them and get better at them. Then, instead of thinking about certain "tests" you can run, which generally don't work and give you mixed signals, you can just continue the natural interaction and look for reciprocation and apathy. It keeps things simple, and natural. You won't have to feel weird ever again by doing stupid tests that only socially awkward "PUAs" do.
So remember those two concepts and go out and practice them. Keep it simple, until next time.
A lot of people talk about the idea of "tests" and how you can tell when a girl is attracted to you. There are dozens of different "tests" and routines people run to see if a girl is attracted to them. There are whole e-books written on tests and the different types of tests there are. To me, this is pointless. It over complicates everything, and you know I like to keep things simple. My main test for attraction is based around a large concept that takes time to learn, but it is the true best test. The idea of "reciprocation." What I mean when I say reciprocation is does she laugh at your jokes, is she interested in what you have to say, does she tease you when you tease her, and does she flirt back when you flirt with her. Does she reciprocate the interest you are showing in her.
On the other hand, the biggest test for her NOT being attracted to you is the idea of apathy. Is she just straight up not interested in what you have to say, when you tease her does she just sit there straight faced and not do anything back, and so on. I know these things might seem obvious, but there is a big misunderstanding with the idea of attraction and attraction tests.
A lot of people think that there are specific things you can say or do that will flip a magical switch in her head that will instantly get her attracted to you. Nope. Not how it works. The concepts of reciprocation and apathy have simplified everything about attraction for me and helped me get much better results in a shorter period of time. They are two things that you need to go out and look for, have both those ideas present in your mind at all times, and you will start to notice them more. Eventually you will develop an intuition for them and get better at them. Then, instead of thinking about certain "tests" you can run, which generally don't work and give you mixed signals, you can just continue the natural interaction and look for reciprocation and apathy. It keeps things simple, and natural. You won't have to feel weird ever again by doing stupid tests that only socially awkward "PUAs" do.
So remember those two concepts and go out and practice them. Keep it simple, until next time.
Friday, August 9, 2013
Get Involved! Help Other People Get Laid
Get involved! Help other people get laid
I try my best to supply all of you with original, informative, and innovative content. Originality and innovation can only go so far though, so that's why I am asking YOU to get involved. Drop a comment, tell me what you want me to blog about next, share your thoughts, even share my blog. If you think my information is stupid and wrong, tell me why! If you think it is genius, also tell me why! I want to spread this to as many people as possible to help everyone get better results with women.
So if you're reading this, please, GET INVOLVED!
I try my best to supply all of you with original, informative, and innovative content. Originality and innovation can only go so far though, so that's why I am asking YOU to get involved. Drop a comment, tell me what you want me to blog about next, share your thoughts, even share my blog. If you think my information is stupid and wrong, tell me why! If you think it is genius, also tell me why! I want to spread this to as many people as possible to help everyone get better results with women.
So if you're reading this, please, GET INVOLVED!
Thursday, August 8, 2013
Use The Magnification Principle to Get Laid
Use the magnification principle to get laid
There is an old saying that goes like this..
"Energy flows where attention goes"
This is the main concept of the magnification principle (credit to CaptainJack.) The theory behind the magnification principle is to ignore anything that doesn't help you, and magnify everything that does. If you give attention to negative things in life, or anything that will not help you achieve your goals, you are just giving it energy and making it bigger in your mind than what it needs to be. This is why it is important to "magnify" your successes and everything that WILL help you achieve your goals because then you will be giving energy to things that will benefit you. This goes much much deeper than picking up women and getting laid. Obviously you can apply this principle to women, and I have, but this is something that will help you in any area of life.
So when seemingly negative things happen to you, its best to ignore them and focus on more positive and beneficial things in life. This will help you live a more productive and happy life.
Keep it simple, until next time.
There is an old saying that goes like this..
"Energy flows where attention goes"
This is the main concept of the magnification principle (credit to CaptainJack.) The theory behind the magnification principle is to ignore anything that doesn't help you, and magnify everything that does. If you give attention to negative things in life, or anything that will not help you achieve your goals, you are just giving it energy and making it bigger in your mind than what it needs to be. This is why it is important to "magnify" your successes and everything that WILL help you achieve your goals because then you will be giving energy to things that will benefit you. This goes much much deeper than picking up women and getting laid. Obviously you can apply this principle to women, and I have, but this is something that will help you in any area of life.
So when seemingly negative things happen to you, its best to ignore them and focus on more positive and beneficial things in life. This will help you live a more productive and happy life.
Keep it simple, until next time.
Wednesday, August 7, 2013
The Fundamentals of Getting Good With Girls
The fundamentals of getting good with girls
There seems to be a BIG misunderstanding when it comes to game and picking up women. People seem to think that you can be fat and have zero social skills, but somehow use special techniques that will get any girl to like you. This is complete bullshit. That is not how game works. Its true that there are certain tactics and techniques used to game women, but generally these techniques are based of psychology and sociology studies. In fact recently I have been straying away from techniques and focusing more on mindsets, and mental concepts. Although techniques do work, they are not nearly as big of a deal as programs such as "Mystery Method" claim they are.
Before you learn anything about game, there are a few things you should have taken care of.
1.) Looks and groom-ness
Before you try anything, you need a makeover. Most people who get into this are either overweight, or have terrible style. Start wearing nicer clothes, get a good haircut, get rid of your acne, and get a tan. Your looks and style can and will instantly improve your results.
2.) Social skills and extroversion
Most people who get into "game" start out very socially awkward. Then, they try to go out and use weird, socially unacceptable pickup lines and get horribly rejected by women. Without basic social skills and an extroverted personality your execution of what you are doing with be off and you wont get the correct results. At first, you should only be worried about becoming more social, friendly, and funny.
3.) Getting rid of past negative experiences
This is a BIG one. Most people have a lifetime of being rejected and having bad experiences with women when they first start out. These negative experiences haunt them and hinder their results, they stop them from making any improvements. From now on, any time you start to think of a bad past experience I want you to ignore it, and change your mind and think of any recent time where you were very happy or confident. This is possibly one the most helpful things I or anyone will ever tell a beginner.
Remember, these things are important to take care BEFORE you try learning routines and techniques. If every person focused on these three things when they first started they would improve much, much faster and make more consistent improvements. Keep it simple, until next time.
There seems to be a BIG misunderstanding when it comes to game and picking up women. People seem to think that you can be fat and have zero social skills, but somehow use special techniques that will get any girl to like you. This is complete bullshit. That is not how game works. Its true that there are certain tactics and techniques used to game women, but generally these techniques are based of psychology and sociology studies. In fact recently I have been straying away from techniques and focusing more on mindsets, and mental concepts. Although techniques do work, they are not nearly as big of a deal as programs such as "Mystery Method" claim they are.
Before you learn anything about game, there are a few things you should have taken care of.
1.) Looks and groom-ness
Before you try anything, you need a makeover. Most people who get into this are either overweight, or have terrible style. Start wearing nicer clothes, get a good haircut, get rid of your acne, and get a tan. Your looks and style can and will instantly improve your results.
2.) Social skills and extroversion
Most people who get into "game" start out very socially awkward. Then, they try to go out and use weird, socially unacceptable pickup lines and get horribly rejected by women. Without basic social skills and an extroverted personality your execution of what you are doing with be off and you wont get the correct results. At first, you should only be worried about becoming more social, friendly, and funny.
3.) Getting rid of past negative experiences
This is a BIG one. Most people have a lifetime of being rejected and having bad experiences with women when they first start out. These negative experiences haunt them and hinder their results, they stop them from making any improvements. From now on, any time you start to think of a bad past experience I want you to ignore it, and change your mind and think of any recent time where you were very happy or confident. This is possibly one the most helpful things I or anyone will ever tell a beginner.
Remember, these things are important to take care BEFORE you try learning routines and techniques. If every person focused on these three things when they first started they would improve much, much faster and make more consistent improvements. Keep it simple, until next time.
Tuesday, August 6, 2013
Mental Skills That Will Help You Get Better With Women
Mental skills that will help you get better with women
The last few weeks I have been toying around with some concepts that I believe will skyrocket your results with women. Practicing and understanding these concepts will help you get better results and give you more confidence. I'm going to give you a list of concepts that I have found to be beneficial to your "game." I'm not going to go into detail on each concept, that's up to you, but I will give you a list of them. Take some time to look at each one and start understanding them, and practicing them. As always, don't take in too much information at a time, just baby step everything. It will take time. So here goes...
Divergent thinking/ creativity
Problem solving
Reasoning
Abstract thought
Pattern recognition
Emotional intelligence
Extroversion
IQ (intelligence quotient)
That is just a list a few concepts I have found to be beneficial. If you study those, you will start to see the world differently. But knowledge and understanding isn't everything, it needs to be combined with a capacity for action, or else all your knowledge will go to waste. So go out, and practice, and study up. Take action, and keep it simple. Until next time...
The last few weeks I have been toying around with some concepts that I believe will skyrocket your results with women. Practicing and understanding these concepts will help you get better results and give you more confidence. I'm going to give you a list of concepts that I have found to be beneficial to your "game." I'm not going to go into detail on each concept, that's up to you, but I will give you a list of them. Take some time to look at each one and start understanding them, and practicing them. As always, don't take in too much information at a time, just baby step everything. It will take time. So here goes...
Divergent thinking/ creativity
Problem solving
Reasoning
Abstract thought
Pattern recognition
Emotional intelligence
Extroversion
IQ (intelligence quotient)
That is just a list a few concepts I have found to be beneficial. If you study those, you will start to see the world differently. But knowledge and understanding isn't everything, it needs to be combined with a capacity for action, or else all your knowledge will go to waste. So go out, and practice, and study up. Take action, and keep it simple. Until next time...
Sunday, August 4, 2013
A Quick Drill For Gaining Confidence With Women
A quick drill for gaining confidence with women
One thing that I personally do a lot which has made noticeable differences in my overall confidence are mental drills. Mental drills are just things you do in your head that help you gain confidence. Today I'm going to share with you a quick mental drill that helps a lot. (credit to CaptainJack for the drill)
Think of a time when a woman you desired came closer to you in life.
Now think of a time when a woman you did NOT desire moved farther away from you in life.
This drill is based off of something that CJ calls the "Magnification Principle." What your doing is your making your past successes bigger in your mind and your past failures smaller. Eventually this will lead to improved confidence and greater mental control.
One thing that I personally do a lot which has made noticeable differences in my overall confidence are mental drills. Mental drills are just things you do in your head that help you gain confidence. Today I'm going to share with you a quick mental drill that helps a lot. (credit to CaptainJack for the drill)
Think of a time when a woman you desired came closer to you in life.
Now think of a time when a woman you did NOT desire moved farther away from you in life.
This drill is based off of something that CJ calls the "Magnification Principle." What your doing is your making your past successes bigger in your mind and your past failures smaller. Eventually this will lead to improved confidence and greater mental control.
Saturday, August 3, 2013
Why "Assholes" Are the Ones With Girlfriends, and You're Stuck in the Friend Zone
Why "assholes" are the ones with girlfriends, and you're stuck in the friend zone
Today I wanted to give you the main reason why the guys you perceive to be "assholes" are the ones with girlfriends, and you are stuck in the friend zone. This post is directly related to my post titled "What Will Actually Get You a Girlfriend." Hopefully this will give you a better understanding of everything.
Has this ever happened to you? You are good friends with a beautiful girl, but you are to afraid to make a move on her, and you sit back and watch her date douche bag after douche bag and get her heart broken every time. You know you could do better for her but you're just to afraid to tell her how you feel. Everyone has been there, so you're not alone. What you need, is to understand the concept of clarification. For a detailed definition and example of what clarification is, please read my recent blog post on the concept, here.
http://gettinglaidsimplified.blogspot.com/2013/08/what-will-actually-get-you-girlfriend.html
The reason why these "assholes" end up getting the girl, is because they are good at two things. They are good at clarifying, and they are good at expressing their thoughts and emotions. Probably two of the most important things when it comes to getting a girlfriend. They are not afraid to flirt with a girl, which clarifies that they are interested in her. They are not afraid to show interest and tell them they like them. Basically, they do all the work, and they make it a simple, easy choice for the girl to decide whether or not she likes them back. Everything they do is geared towards simplicity. While your sitting there, a good guy who really likes this girl, a girl who might actually like you back, but will never know because of the simple fact that you don't clarify things. Without clarity you have nothing.
Think about it this way... If you took two guys, both exactly the same, with the same group of friends, and had one of them tell EVERY girl he knew that he thought they were cute and wanted to hangout with them more, while the other played therapist the other girls and had them tell him their problems, who do you think would get better results. Obviously the first one. I know it seems simple, but it truly is somewhat of a numbers game. The reason why the first one would get better results is because he made things CLEAR. The second one does what the majority of the guys in the friend zone do, listen to the girl tell him all their problems, with the hope that getting to know her better will help him get in her pants. That's not how it works, acting like a girls best friend will do exactly that, keep you her best friend. It doesn't clarify anything.
Hopefully you have a better understanding of the concept of clarification, because it is by far one the most important concepts in all of game. You NEED to get better at making things clear. Like I said earlier, without clarity you have nothing. Keep it simple, and thanks for reading.
Today I wanted to give you the main reason why the guys you perceive to be "assholes" are the ones with girlfriends, and you are stuck in the friend zone. This post is directly related to my post titled "What Will Actually Get You a Girlfriend." Hopefully this will give you a better understanding of everything.
Has this ever happened to you? You are good friends with a beautiful girl, but you are to afraid to make a move on her, and you sit back and watch her date douche bag after douche bag and get her heart broken every time. You know you could do better for her but you're just to afraid to tell her how you feel. Everyone has been there, so you're not alone. What you need, is to understand the concept of clarification. For a detailed definition and example of what clarification is, please read my recent blog post on the concept, here.
http://gettinglaidsimplified.blogspot.com/2013/08/what-will-actually-get-you-girlfriend.html
The reason why these "assholes" end up getting the girl, is because they are good at two things. They are good at clarifying, and they are good at expressing their thoughts and emotions. Probably two of the most important things when it comes to getting a girlfriend. They are not afraid to flirt with a girl, which clarifies that they are interested in her. They are not afraid to show interest and tell them they like them. Basically, they do all the work, and they make it a simple, easy choice for the girl to decide whether or not she likes them back. Everything they do is geared towards simplicity. While your sitting there, a good guy who really likes this girl, a girl who might actually like you back, but will never know because of the simple fact that you don't clarify things. Without clarity you have nothing.
Think about it this way... If you took two guys, both exactly the same, with the same group of friends, and had one of them tell EVERY girl he knew that he thought they were cute and wanted to hangout with them more, while the other played therapist the other girls and had them tell him their problems, who do you think would get better results. Obviously the first one. I know it seems simple, but it truly is somewhat of a numbers game. The reason why the first one would get better results is because he made things CLEAR. The second one does what the majority of the guys in the friend zone do, listen to the girl tell him all their problems, with the hope that getting to know her better will help him get in her pants. That's not how it works, acting like a girls best friend will do exactly that, keep you her best friend. It doesn't clarify anything.
Hopefully you have a better understanding of the concept of clarification, because it is by far one the most important concepts in all of game. You NEED to get better at making things clear. Like I said earlier, without clarity you have nothing. Keep it simple, and thanks for reading.
Friday, August 2, 2013
The Biggest Factor in Flirting With Women
The biggest factor in flirting with women
Have you ever been in a social situation and you are talking to a girl, but you are not sure if she is interested in you? Don't worry, we've all been there, and I'm going to tell you how to never have that problem again. Please, don't look for that quick fix, there aren't any. There is no secret formula that will get every girl attracted to you, and let you know when they are. Many methods out there are very complex, and people buy into it because unknowing people assume that complex methods of how to pick up women work because they think complexity = understanding.
Its actually quite the opposite, complexity stems from a LACK of understanding. The answer to finding out if a girl is into you is very simple, but it is a skill that you need to practice to get better at. I know that may be something you don't want to hear, that you actually have to practice getting better with women, but its the truth. So here goes..
The biggest factor when it comes to knowing if a girl is interested in you initially comes down to two things...
1.) Showing interest by flirting
2.) and looking for reciprocation
What does this mean? It means that if you want to know if a girl is interested in you, then you first show interest in her by flirting, and then you look for reciprocation such as her flirting back. Its very simple, but its something that you have to PRACTICE. You will get better at flirting and judging their reactions over time.
Why? If you don't flirt with a girl then she never will know if your interested in her, and naturally, girls are NOT going to be the ones to make the first move, so you have to flirt with them first. Secondly, you have to be able to read their reactions to judge if they are interested in you also. You do this by simply looking for reciprocation. When you tease them, do they tease back? Do they play along with your jokes, with your playfulness? Reciprocation is the best test for attraction. The opposite of reciprocation in this case is apathy, which would be them not giving you a reaction at all.
Stay tuned in my next few posts where I will go over exactly HOW to flirt, with examples. Until then, your drill is go out with the intention of flirting, and look to see if girls reciprocate. Keep it simple, until next time.
Have you ever been in a social situation and you are talking to a girl, but you are not sure if she is interested in you? Don't worry, we've all been there, and I'm going to tell you how to never have that problem again. Please, don't look for that quick fix, there aren't any. There is no secret formula that will get every girl attracted to you, and let you know when they are. Many methods out there are very complex, and people buy into it because unknowing people assume that complex methods of how to pick up women work because they think complexity = understanding.
Its actually quite the opposite, complexity stems from a LACK of understanding. The answer to finding out if a girl is into you is very simple, but it is a skill that you need to practice to get better at. I know that may be something you don't want to hear, that you actually have to practice getting better with women, but its the truth. So here goes..
The biggest factor when it comes to knowing if a girl is interested in you initially comes down to two things...
1.) Showing interest by flirting
2.) and looking for reciprocation
What does this mean? It means that if you want to know if a girl is interested in you, then you first show interest in her by flirting, and then you look for reciprocation such as her flirting back. Its very simple, but its something that you have to PRACTICE. You will get better at flirting and judging their reactions over time.
Why? If you don't flirt with a girl then she never will know if your interested in her, and naturally, girls are NOT going to be the ones to make the first move, so you have to flirt with them first. Secondly, you have to be able to read their reactions to judge if they are interested in you also. You do this by simply looking for reciprocation. When you tease them, do they tease back? Do they play along with your jokes, with your playfulness? Reciprocation is the best test for attraction. The opposite of reciprocation in this case is apathy, which would be them not giving you a reaction at all.
Stay tuned in my next few posts where I will go over exactly HOW to flirt, with examples. Until then, your drill is go out with the intention of flirting, and look to see if girls reciprocate. Keep it simple, until next time.
Thursday, August 1, 2013
What Will Actually Get You a Girlfriend
What will actually get you a girlfriend
Has this ever happened to you? You know of a cute girl but you don't think shes into you, so you never make a move on her, and then weeks later you find out from her friend that the girl used to have a crush on you? I know its happened to me, a lot, and I used to think about how it would have been different if she just would have told me she liked me back then, because if she would have, I would have liked her back. You need to realize the same thing I did, girls are not going to be the ones to make moves, you need to step up make them, and I'm going to tell you HOW and WHY.
A lot of people have ideas about what actually gets you a girlfriend and what does not. Most of these ideas are very complex and have many different concepts stemming off from them. A common example is the idea that you need to be an asshole to get women, which is absolutely not true. There is actually a reason why a lot of assholes tend to get more girls (and I'll get to that later), but that doesn't mean that nice guys don't have that same quality. Most people have tons of complex ideas running around in there mind about how to get girls, when in reality they are confused and they have no as to what actually works and what doesn't... and if by chance they get a girl, they don't know what they did and they don't know how to repeat it. Well I'm going to tell you what ACTUALLY gets the girls, or rather the concept of it. Of course there are certain ways to execute this concept, but understanding the bigger picture is the first step to making progress, so here goes.
Clarification
You might be confused at what you just read. If you have read any previous game material then what they tell that gets the girls is something completely different and much more complicated. But they are WRONG.
Let me give you a breakdown as to why clarification is one the most important concepts in game.
Clarification- In any successful interaction there is clarity. Think back to anytime you have gotten a girl in the past and you will recognize this. I have personally gone back and thought about every single time I have picked up a girl and this was the underlying them here. Clarification. What I'm talking about here is when BOTH of you understand that you like each other and you want something out of each other. Without clarification the interaction will fade away and you will have no clue what to do. The definition of clarification is.... "an interpretation that removes obstacles to understanding." So when I say clarification I am talking about doing things such as flirting and making sexual comments. The reason these things work is not because they set of emotional reactions, or because they trick women into thinking your the alpha male or any bullshit like that, they work because they clarify. Back to what I said earlier, its up to you to clarify. This doesn't mean you see a hot a girl and then you confess your love to her.. yes that technically is clarifying, but prepared for her to clarify things in her own way too, by not wanting to talk to you again. What this does mean is that when you hear people telling you to "play hard to get" to get girls they are completely 100% wrong. "Playing hard to get" does the opposite of clarifying things, it makes things ambiguous. Instead you should do things such as flirt and tease girls. What flirting does is it shows direct interest, it makes things clear that you are interested in her, and it leaves it up to her to reciprocate interest or not. Either way, you made things clear and simple, so it will either be a yes or a no, and you will never have to worry about if she actually likes you or not, or worry about what could have been. Flirting and clarification is a skill you will get better at, so go out and practice, that is your drill for the next few days.
Has this ever happened to you? You know of a cute girl but you don't think shes into you, so you never make a move on her, and then weeks later you find out from her friend that the girl used to have a crush on you? I know its happened to me, a lot, and I used to think about how it would have been different if she just would have told me she liked me back then, because if she would have, I would have liked her back. You need to realize the same thing I did, girls are not going to be the ones to make moves, you need to step up make them, and I'm going to tell you HOW and WHY.
A lot of people have ideas about what actually gets you a girlfriend and what does not. Most of these ideas are very complex and have many different concepts stemming off from them. A common example is the idea that you need to be an asshole to get women, which is absolutely not true. There is actually a reason why a lot of assholes tend to get more girls (and I'll get to that later), but that doesn't mean that nice guys don't have that same quality. Most people have tons of complex ideas running around in there mind about how to get girls, when in reality they are confused and they have no as to what actually works and what doesn't... and if by chance they get a girl, they don't know what they did and they don't know how to repeat it. Well I'm going to tell you what ACTUALLY gets the girls, or rather the concept of it. Of course there are certain ways to execute this concept, but understanding the bigger picture is the first step to making progress, so here goes.
Clarification
You might be confused at what you just read. If you have read any previous game material then what they tell that gets the girls is something completely different and much more complicated. But they are WRONG.
Let me give you a breakdown as to why clarification is one the most important concepts in game.
Clarification- In any successful interaction there is clarity. Think back to anytime you have gotten a girl in the past and you will recognize this. I have personally gone back and thought about every single time I have picked up a girl and this was the underlying them here. Clarification. What I'm talking about here is when BOTH of you understand that you like each other and you want something out of each other. Without clarification the interaction will fade away and you will have no clue what to do. The definition of clarification is.... "an interpretation that removes obstacles to understanding." So when I say clarification I am talking about doing things such as flirting and making sexual comments. The reason these things work is not because they set of emotional reactions, or because they trick women into thinking your the alpha male or any bullshit like that, they work because they clarify. Back to what I said earlier, its up to you to clarify. This doesn't mean you see a hot a girl and then you confess your love to her.. yes that technically is clarifying, but prepared for her to clarify things in her own way too, by not wanting to talk to you again. What this does mean is that when you hear people telling you to "play hard to get" to get girls they are completely 100% wrong. "Playing hard to get" does the opposite of clarifying things, it makes things ambiguous. Instead you should do things such as flirt and tease girls. What flirting does is it shows direct interest, it makes things clear that you are interested in her, and it leaves it up to her to reciprocate interest or not. Either way, you made things clear and simple, so it will either be a yes or a no, and you will never have to worry about if she actually likes you or not, or worry about what could have been. Flirting and clarification is a skill you will get better at, so go out and practice, that is your drill for the next few days.
How Your Beliefs are Stopping You From Getting a Girlfriend
How your beliefs are stopping you from getting a girlfriend
Have you ever found yourself thinking that only douche bags and assholes get girlfriends? We have all been guilty of thinking that at some point in our life, and the majority of guys still believe that to this day. Regardless of whether or not douche bags do get with girls or not, that's not the point. The point is that when you tell yourself something like that you are forever fucking yourself over. When you begin to believe that only douche bags get girlfriends then you will start to notice that it seems as if you were right the whole time, and that douche bags really are the only people who get girlfriends. When you tell yourself something like this, it is bad for two reasons...
1.) By calling all other guys who get with girls douche bags you are putting up a defense mechanism. You are just like every other guy in this sense, don't kid yourself. You all have the same goals when it comes to girls. You are just like every other guy in the sense that you are all guys who are trying to get laid. By believing that only douche bags get with girls, and by simultaneously believing that you, yourself are not a douche bag, you have confirmed in your mind that you CANNOT get girls. Do you see where I'm going with this?
2.) This is known as a negative belief, instead you should forget about whether or not these guys are douche bags, that doesn't matter to you, you should ignore it. I know, your upset that you got friend zoned for being a pussy, and then another guy, who was confident enough to go after what he wanted "stole" your girl and now you label him as a douche bag. No, that's a real man, and you sir, are a douche bag. Of course some times these guys may be douche's, but a lot of the time their not.
My point here is that what you believe will filter what you notice and don't notice in life. If you believe that you have to be super good looking to get girls, then you will only notice super good looking guys with girlfriends. If you believe looks don't matter, which I personally believe, you will notice all types of guys getting with girls.
To put it simple, your beliefs filter your reality. So I hope you can see why it is important to have a solid belief structure that will help you achieve your goals. A list of beliefs that you ACTUALLY think are true that will help you get what you want in life. If you have a lot of positive beliefs that are geared towards achieving your goals you will create new opportunities for yourself in any situation. That is the most powerful part of this concept, the idea that your beliefs create opportunities for yourself, opportunities that others may not see or notice because of their personal beliefs.
Let me give you an example of a few beliefs that I carry..
Looks don't matter
Girls just as sexual as guys, if not MORE
Women want to be hit on
Taking risks leads to success
No means not yet
The list goes on, but these were just a few I thought off the top of my head. Beliefs don't necessarily have to be true to be helpful, if you believe you can get any and every girl in the world (which realistically you can't) then that will actually benefit you even though it may not be true. If you believe that girls are very sexual, then you will notice more opportunities in life to make an interaction go sexual. If you believe all girls are innocent and don't like sex, then sadly that is all you will notice and your sex life will suck.
Beliefs are definitely one of the most powerful concepts and I have noticed huge improvements ever since I started focusing on this concept. Your drill is to create a list of beliefs that will help you achieve your goals, and get rid of any beliefs that won't help you. Keep it simple and thanks for reading.
Have you ever found yourself thinking that only douche bags and assholes get girlfriends? We have all been guilty of thinking that at some point in our life, and the majority of guys still believe that to this day. Regardless of whether or not douche bags do get with girls or not, that's not the point. The point is that when you tell yourself something like that you are forever fucking yourself over. When you begin to believe that only douche bags get girlfriends then you will start to notice that it seems as if you were right the whole time, and that douche bags really are the only people who get girlfriends. When you tell yourself something like this, it is bad for two reasons...
1.) By calling all other guys who get with girls douche bags you are putting up a defense mechanism. You are just like every other guy in this sense, don't kid yourself. You all have the same goals when it comes to girls. You are just like every other guy in the sense that you are all guys who are trying to get laid. By believing that only douche bags get with girls, and by simultaneously believing that you, yourself are not a douche bag, you have confirmed in your mind that you CANNOT get girls. Do you see where I'm going with this?
2.) This is known as a negative belief, instead you should forget about whether or not these guys are douche bags, that doesn't matter to you, you should ignore it. I know, your upset that you got friend zoned for being a pussy, and then another guy, who was confident enough to go after what he wanted "stole" your girl and now you label him as a douche bag. No, that's a real man, and you sir, are a douche bag. Of course some times these guys may be douche's, but a lot of the time their not.
My point here is that what you believe will filter what you notice and don't notice in life. If you believe that you have to be super good looking to get girls, then you will only notice super good looking guys with girlfriends. If you believe looks don't matter, which I personally believe, you will notice all types of guys getting with girls.
To put it simple, your beliefs filter your reality. So I hope you can see why it is important to have a solid belief structure that will help you achieve your goals. A list of beliefs that you ACTUALLY think are true that will help you get what you want in life. If you have a lot of positive beliefs that are geared towards achieving your goals you will create new opportunities for yourself in any situation. That is the most powerful part of this concept, the idea that your beliefs create opportunities for yourself, opportunities that others may not see or notice because of their personal beliefs.
Let me give you an example of a few beliefs that I carry..
Looks don't matter
Girls just as sexual as guys, if not MORE
Women want to be hit on
Taking risks leads to success
No means not yet
The list goes on, but these were just a few I thought off the top of my head. Beliefs don't necessarily have to be true to be helpful, if you believe you can get any and every girl in the world (which realistically you can't) then that will actually benefit you even though it may not be true. If you believe that girls are very sexual, then you will notice more opportunities in life to make an interaction go sexual. If you believe all girls are innocent and don't like sex, then sadly that is all you will notice and your sex life will suck.
Beliefs are definitely one of the most powerful concepts and I have noticed huge improvements ever since I started focusing on this concept. Your drill is to create a list of beliefs that will help you achieve your goals, and get rid of any beliefs that won't help you. Keep it simple and thanks for reading.
Whats Wrong With Current PUA Seduction Methods
Whats wrong with current PUA seduction methods
For any of you that are familiar with popular seduction methods and programs, then you have most likely found yourself spending a lot of your time studying "tactics and techniques" and ultimately spending a lot of your time confused and filling your mind with bad information.
What current seduction methods do is essentially teach you their basic structure, for instance the "M3" model, then they fill your mind with what you are supposed to do in each phase of the structure, while simultaneously teaching "correct" body language, mindsets, and beliefs. The reason why this is wrong is because 1.) they teach you everything out of order, most guys who get into "game" are socially awkward and have a lifetime of bad experiences with women that ultimately have a big effect on their current "game." To put it simply, if you were to effectively remove all false information from your mind, remove all past negative experiences from your memory, and then teach your self a basic structure and solid beliefs, you would be ahead of pretty much all guys currently... and 2.) They teach you too much too fast. Simplicity is key to effectively learning anything new in life. Simplicity is also key to steady improvement and developing a good skill set and a good understanding. A wise man once said that complexity stems from a lack of understanding... so when you see seduction strategies and structures that are extremely, even remotely complicated, there is a good chance they have no understanding of what they are actually doing ;)
Ideally, a good method would, at first, not teach you anything new at all. That's right, at first, they literally would be teaching you NOTHING about picking up women. They would spend their time removing all the false information in your mind that is holding you back from truly learning the important stuff, and they would work on getting rid of, or minimizing, the past negative experiences in your life that are holding you back and keeping you in the past. Negativity, false information and bad beliefs are killer when it comes to learning something new, that goes for anything in life. If you have a lifetime of false information built up in your mind, how do you expect to effectively learn new things without having conflicting ideas and thoughts that hinder your results? Conflicting beliefs and thoughts basically stop you from moving forward, because you cant move forward with conflicting information in your mind, you must first get rid of the false stuff.
This might be a lot to take in at one time, but I hope you can think about this and start to see the truth in it. I'm going to try my hardest not to confuse anyone in my posts, so I will stop it here, but hope to clarify everything more in the future.
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For any of you that are familiar with popular seduction methods and programs, then you have most likely found yourself spending a lot of your time studying "tactics and techniques" and ultimately spending a lot of your time confused and filling your mind with bad information.
What current seduction methods do is essentially teach you their basic structure, for instance the "M3" model, then they fill your mind with what you are supposed to do in each phase of the structure, while simultaneously teaching "correct" body language, mindsets, and beliefs. The reason why this is wrong is because 1.) they teach you everything out of order, most guys who get into "game" are socially awkward and have a lifetime of bad experiences with women that ultimately have a big effect on their current "game." To put it simply, if you were to effectively remove all false information from your mind, remove all past negative experiences from your memory, and then teach your self a basic structure and solid beliefs, you would be ahead of pretty much all guys currently... and 2.) They teach you too much too fast. Simplicity is key to effectively learning anything new in life. Simplicity is also key to steady improvement and developing a good skill set and a good understanding. A wise man once said that complexity stems from a lack of understanding... so when you see seduction strategies and structures that are extremely, even remotely complicated, there is a good chance they have no understanding of what they are actually doing ;)
Ideally, a good method would, at first, not teach you anything new at all. That's right, at first, they literally would be teaching you NOTHING about picking up women. They would spend their time removing all the false information in your mind that is holding you back from truly learning the important stuff, and they would work on getting rid of, or minimizing, the past negative experiences in your life that are holding you back and keeping you in the past. Negativity, false information and bad beliefs are killer when it comes to learning something new, that goes for anything in life. If you have a lifetime of false information built up in your mind, how do you expect to effectively learn new things without having conflicting ideas and thoughts that hinder your results? Conflicting beliefs and thoughts basically stop you from moving forward, because you cant move forward with conflicting information in your mind, you must first get rid of the false stuff.
This might be a lot to take in at one time, but I hope you can think about this and start to see the truth in it. I'm going to try my hardest not to confuse anyone in my posts, so I will stop it here, but hope to clarify everything more in the future.
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