Use Positive Thinking to Get Laid
When it comes to attracting beautiful women, a lot of it has to do with your beliefs and way of thinking. You can go out and "run game" but if you are a naturally negative person that will show, but it goes much, much deeper than that. A lot deeper.
There are basic techniques and applicable concepts in game such as flirting, escalation, framing, etc... but one the most powerful and simple mental concepts is the idea of positivity. I'm going to try to keep this post as simple as possible, because there are a lot of different routes I could take when trying to explain this concept, so here I go. I cannot stress how important it is to not only naturally be in a positive state of mind, but have the ability to re-frame negative thoughts and turn them positive, and remove all negative beliefs, thoughts, and past experiences from your mind.
Positivity is a health indicator, so when people see you, a happy and positive man, they are naturally going to like you more, simple. This doesn't mean they will magically be attracted to you, of course sometimes it might, but it means that everyone will naturally like you more, which is very good.
"But what if my life sucks and I never get with girls so I'm always sad?" ... you might ask.
First off, you literally need to change all of your thoughts to positive. This is a very powerful concept and will take time at first. Negative thoughts and past negative experiences are possibly the biggest thing in life that will stop you from getting what you want, in ANY area of life, not just women. Past negative experiences can and will dictate your current beliefs of what you can and cannot do and dictate your choices, decisions and actions. Negative thinking is the best way to NOT get laid. Everyone has had fucked up shit that has happened to them in the past and you need to let go of it. First off, you need to remove any negative thoughts and beliefs from your mind.
The idea that you have to be "cooler" than a girl for her to like you? negative belief.
The idea that you have to raise your value and lower hers before she can like you? negative belief.
The idea that you have to use specific routines to manipulate a girl into liking you? negative belief.
The idea that you need to be super good looking, a 10 out of 10, to get with women? negative belief
The list goes on, and I hope you see my point. Any ideas or beliefs that you have previously had in your head that don't benefit you and lead you toward your goals you need to remove from your mind. Look for any real world references or examples where your negative beliefs can be dis-proven. For example, lets look the popular belief that you have to be a male super-model look a like to get with women. Tell yourself this isn't true, now go out and look for specific examples of girls with fat or ugly men. You will start to notice it more and then you will truly believe that looks don't matter, which is a belief that will actually help you to get closer to your goals. I want you to think about any ideas or beliefs you currently hold about yourself, women, and picking up women. I want you think about everything, and ask yourself whether believing this will help you reach your goals, or push you further away from them.
As far as re-framing negative thoughts, this a skill I picked up on my own that helps you live a more positive happy life, which at the core is truly what we want from all of this, and it helps you attract more women in your life.
Right now, I want you to focus on a specific object, put all of your attention on it and focus on it completely for a few seconds. Now can tell me what you were thinking? Well, I already know, and it was nothing. The reason is because when you put your undivided attention on something your thoughts go neutral, at least for a little while. Now, anytime in the future you think something negative, for example you start to stress about work or school, I want you to focus your attention on something, and then immediately think about a happy moment in your life. It can even be the HAPPIEST moment in your life, anything that changes your thoughts from negative to positive. You will find that this will get easier over time, and you naturally become a more positive and happy person.
This a brief overview of the concept of positivity and applying it towards picking up women. Practice these drills I have given you because they make a HUGE difference. Keep it simple, and thanks for reading.
Wednesday, July 31, 2013
Tuesday, July 30, 2013
The Basics of Flirting
The Basics of Flirting
The basics of social interactions that are geared towards sex revolve around the concept of flirting. Flirting is by far one of the most useful and applicable concepts in the game. Flirting is how you NEVER ENTER the friendzone. The reason why flirting works is NOT because of certain specific words or phrases you use that trigger attraction or emotional reactions, although many seduction methods will tell you this. The reason why flirting works above anything thing else is because of the overall concept of what you're doing when you flirt.. when you flirt with someone, you are showing interest in them, and you are clarifying the interaction as sexual. Two of the biggest things you NEED in a successful interaction are clarification and agreement. Without those two you will have no clue where you stand in the interaction.
Flirting is based off of the idea of reciprocation which basically means returning something. When you flirt with someone, you will either get reciprocation, which is what you want, or you will get apathy, which is not what you want. When some reciprocates flirting they are basically returning interest in you and clarifying that they are interested in you too. That's why flirting is such a basic but necessary skill to understand.
Here is a simplified version of how flirting works..
1.) You show interest in girl. (teasing, touching, complimenting, etc.)
2.) She either reciprocates by flirting back, and you now have a clarified interaction that you are both interested in each other, which is what you want. Or she responds with apathy, which in that case she is clarifying that she is not interested.
3.) Now that you have a clarified interaction you are free to start making bigger moves and focus on other things.
I know you probably want to know HOW to flirt, but flirting is a personal skill and style that you develop over time. If you are truly not sure how to flirt, I know there are thousands of articles and videos out there that can give you examples. In reality, its not as important to learn the specific techniques as it is to go out with the intention of flirting with girls, look for reciprocation, and learn from your experiences. That way you develop and intuition for the whole thing. So your drill for the next few days is to just have the intention of flirting present in your mind, and to look for girls reciprocating flirting. Keep it simple, thanks for reading.
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The basics of social interactions that are geared towards sex revolve around the concept of flirting. Flirting is by far one of the most useful and applicable concepts in the game. Flirting is how you NEVER ENTER the friendzone. The reason why flirting works is NOT because of certain specific words or phrases you use that trigger attraction or emotional reactions, although many seduction methods will tell you this. The reason why flirting works above anything thing else is because of the overall concept of what you're doing when you flirt.. when you flirt with someone, you are showing interest in them, and you are clarifying the interaction as sexual. Two of the biggest things you NEED in a successful interaction are clarification and agreement. Without those two you will have no clue where you stand in the interaction.
Flirting is based off of the idea of reciprocation which basically means returning something. When you flirt with someone, you will either get reciprocation, which is what you want, or you will get apathy, which is not what you want. When some reciprocates flirting they are basically returning interest in you and clarifying that they are interested in you too. That's why flirting is such a basic but necessary skill to understand.
Here is a simplified version of how flirting works..
1.) You show interest in girl. (teasing, touching, complimenting, etc.)
2.) She either reciprocates by flirting back, and you now have a clarified interaction that you are both interested in each other, which is what you want. Or she responds with apathy, which in that case she is clarifying that she is not interested.
3.) Now that you have a clarified interaction you are free to start making bigger moves and focus on other things.
I know you probably want to know HOW to flirt, but flirting is a personal skill and style that you develop over time. If you are truly not sure how to flirt, I know there are thousands of articles and videos out there that can give you examples. In reality, its not as important to learn the specific techniques as it is to go out with the intention of flirting with girls, look for reciprocation, and learn from your experiences. That way you develop and intuition for the whole thing. So your drill for the next few days is to just have the intention of flirting present in your mind, and to look for girls reciprocating flirting. Keep it simple, thanks for reading.
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Simplified Way of Picking Up Women
Simplified Way of Picking Up Women
As I talked about in my last post, simplicity is key to everything in life. I gave you a very simple structure to follow when picking up women and talked about the concept of simplicity. When it comes to learning a new skill, you should not focus on small details but large applicable concepts. This is the opposite of what most seduction methods do. Most seduction methods teach you a ton of small techniques that are practically useless when used alone and not combined with solid beliefs and other factors. This confuses you and actually stops you from getting the results you want.
A simplified way of what I do, and what everyone else does when they pick up a girl (whether they realize it or not) goes something like this.
1.) You show interest in them by flirting, and you either receive reciprocation (good) or apathy (bad). This clarifies the interaction as sexual.
2.) You look for opposition, or resistance.
3.) You both, in one way, shape or form, whether you realize it or not, express your goals for the interaction. (sex, relationship, just friends)
4.) If you have clarification and the agreement on your goals then you either structure a closing opportunity for sex, or move on from there and go anywhere you want in the relationship.
Essentially, it is just flirting, seeing if they flirt back, making your intentions clear, and leaving it up to them to agree or disagree. I know it sounds basic, but this is actually how it works. Of course their IS a certain way to do this, and certain things you need to have mentally in line to be able to execute this successfully, but luckily anyone can learn. I will go into greater detail in later posts... but for now, just meditate on this idea I just gave you. This concept of how picking up women actually works. Think about times in your past when you have gotten with a girl and relate it to this structure. You will find that all of your successful interactions have basically followed this structure in some way.
So keep it simple, and don't overload your mind with useless information. Those are drills for the next few days.
As I talked about in my last post, simplicity is key to everything in life. I gave you a very simple structure to follow when picking up women and talked about the concept of simplicity. When it comes to learning a new skill, you should not focus on small details but large applicable concepts. This is the opposite of what most seduction methods do. Most seduction methods teach you a ton of small techniques that are practically useless when used alone and not combined with solid beliefs and other factors. This confuses you and actually stops you from getting the results you want.
A simplified way of what I do, and what everyone else does when they pick up a girl (whether they realize it or not) goes something like this.
1.) You show interest in them by flirting, and you either receive reciprocation (good) or apathy (bad). This clarifies the interaction as sexual.
2.) You look for opposition, or resistance.
3.) You both, in one way, shape or form, whether you realize it or not, express your goals for the interaction. (sex, relationship, just friends)
4.) If you have clarification and the agreement on your goals then you either structure a closing opportunity for sex, or move on from there and go anywhere you want in the relationship.
Essentially, it is just flirting, seeing if they flirt back, making your intentions clear, and leaving it up to them to agree or disagree. I know it sounds basic, but this is actually how it works. Of course their IS a certain way to do this, and certain things you need to have mentally in line to be able to execute this successfully, but luckily anyone can learn. I will go into greater detail in later posts... but for now, just meditate on this idea I just gave you. This concept of how picking up women actually works. Think about times in your past when you have gotten with a girl and relate it to this structure. You will find that all of your successful interactions have basically followed this structure in some way.
So keep it simple, and don't overload your mind with useless information. Those are drills for the next few days.
An Introduction Into Picking Up Women
An introduction into picking up women...
With this blog, I am going to try and keep everything as simple as possible. I have read other blogs with this similar topic and their teaching methods complicate everything. As a wise man once said...
"Complexity stems from a lack of understanding.."
Meaning that when you are reading posts from other people and you find yourself even mildly confused, and their information seems even remotely confusing they probably have no idea what they are talking about. The people who understand topics the most are the ones who are able to simplify it in order to explain it successfully to beginners.
I will start with essentially the simplest system (credit to CaptainJack who I stole this from) as far as actually picking up women. here's how it goes...
1.) Heighten sexual emotions
2.) Remove mental-societal barriers
3.) Structure a closing opportunity
I know, If you have ever studied MysteryMethod or anything similar, you are used to a whole 3 phase structure, with lots of other phases stemming off from them, with tons of tactics and techniques for each phase. This will confuse you and will actually hurt your progress and results. Simplicity is key.
Ill keep this post short and simple, and let you absorb that simple pickup system I just told you above. Think about it for a while and In my next posts I will go into greater detail at how it all works. For now, just think about the concept of simplicity versus complexity. Think about how much smoother everything in life runs when it is simplified.
With this blog, I am going to try and keep everything as simple as possible. I have read other blogs with this similar topic and their teaching methods complicate everything. As a wise man once said...
"Complexity stems from a lack of understanding.."
Meaning that when you are reading posts from other people and you find yourself even mildly confused, and their information seems even remotely confusing they probably have no idea what they are talking about. The people who understand topics the most are the ones who are able to simplify it in order to explain it successfully to beginners.
I will start with essentially the simplest system (credit to CaptainJack who I stole this from) as far as actually picking up women. here's how it goes...
1.) Heighten sexual emotions
2.) Remove mental-societal barriers
3.) Structure a closing opportunity
I know, If you have ever studied MysteryMethod or anything similar, you are used to a whole 3 phase structure, with lots of other phases stemming off from them, with tons of tactics and techniques for each phase. This will confuse you and will actually hurt your progress and results. Simplicity is key.
Ill keep this post short and simple, and let you absorb that simple pickup system I just told you above. Think about it for a while and In my next posts I will go into greater detail at how it all works. For now, just think about the concept of simplicity versus complexity. Think about how much smoother everything in life runs when it is simplified.
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